“If you want to choose your lifestyle, you cannot be picky about what careers you want to pursue. If you want to choose your career, you cannot be picky about what cities/lifestyles you want to live in” – Francis Chen (Quora)
A loving person lives in a loving world.
A hostile person lives in a hostile world;
everyone you meet is your mirror. – Ken Keyes Jr.
- People aren’t against you, they’re for themselves
- Irish Proverbs:
- There is misfortune only where there is wealth.
- There is no pain greater than the pain of rejection
- The road to hell is paved with good intentions
- Though wisdom is good in the beginning it is better at the end
- The best way to keep loyalty in a man’s heart is to keep money in his purse.
- Speed and accuracy do not agree.
- Pride feels no pain.
- Only the rich can afford compassion.
- Marriages are all happy; its having breakfast together that causes all the trouble
- No use carrying an umbrella if your shoes are leaking.
- The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.
- We judge others by their actions and ourselves by our intentions.
- In social psychology, they have a name for it! It’s called the Fundamental Attribution Error, and it states that when we explain behavior of others, we have a tendency to overestimate the role of dispositional characteristics and underestimate the role of situational influence. But when we are explaining our behavior (moreso justifying our “incorrect” behavior) we blame it on situational influence, and not our dispositional attributes (AKA our intentions,or personality).
- Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is who you really are, while your reputation is merely what people think you are” – John Wooden
- “If it is to be, it is up to me.”
- The world doesn’t hate you nor love you; it just doesn’t care about you.
“Doing nothing is the wrong concept. You never do nothing, because even when your body is still your mind is churning and processing information.
I have a strong dislike against “wasting time.” I don’t like myself when I spend time on nonsense. And so I fill all of my day with “constructive things.” My walk to work is filled with podcasts, the time waiting for the food to bake filled with news articles. While eating I entertain myself with shows or Ted talks or whatnot.
The best decision I made in the last weeks was to stop most of that.
Aristotle recommended to take walks – especially while discussing with another person. And now, walking to work with just my mind and the scenery and passing people as company I feel more relaxed. I feel serene. I learn to understand myself better, just the way a meditation clears my mind.
I mentally plan my evening or reflect on the day – conflicts with the boss, troubles, things I achieved, things I learned. I finally notice the food I’m eating.
The list goes on. I’m not going to stop consuming information and I’m not going to stop using podcasts on some long walks – but I live more consciously, more aware, more relaxed. It’s small changes and suddenly I’m happier and can handle stress better.
I think we all tend to drown our minds – emotions, thoughts, worries, little wins, conversations we had or want to have and much more – we drown all of it in manufactured emotions (reddit, games, tv, …) and interesting, and valuable, but ultimately unnecessary information.
When you say “doing nothing” you confuse something. You are doing things all the time, your brain never takes a break. But when you “do nothing” you finally allow your brain to breathe and process all the things it needs and wants to process. I think all these modern diseases – sleeping problems, stress, depression, distractability, even obesity,… – they have a lot to do with the fact that we don’t allow our brains anymore to breathe. We bombard them with stuff – either information or, worse, emotion – and in order to handle this stuff other important tasks – housekeeping tasks such as consolidating memories, reflecting about one’s feelings and health and happiness, planning healthy food, considering how to bring up that issue with the boss – are drowned in a sea of emotion and information. They are drowned in a wonderful wealth of “stuff to process” that ultimately prevents our brains from ensuring their own – our – mental and physical health.
We are indoctrinated with an idea that time needs to be “spent”. That’s why you wonder what people do when they don’t do all the things you do. I tell you what: they engage with others and, more importantly, with themselves. They learn who they are and what they value. Without any effort their minds plan the future and consolidate memories of the past.
That, I think, means to be truly alive. “The unexamined life is not worth living,” said Socrates. The modern version is maybe this:
The person that lives solely in emotions and information from the outside, the person that never pulls itself out of this messy reality and gives itself over to a mental spa, a time of healing and processing, a time of reflecting, feeling, thinking, seeing, worrying, planning, smiling, that person doesn’t live.
Take a walk. Leave the iPod and your phone at home. Find some trees or a place with a nice view. It’s even okay if you just lie down on the couch or stand in the shower or sit at your desk, with your eyes looking past the screen. Just be you, for a moment. And then watch, carefully, without judgement, all those things that happen in your mind while you “do nothing.” – ALooc
80% of life is just showing up. You don’t need qualifications, motivation, brilliant ideas, or any other crap. The person who wins is simply the person who shows up. If you show up every day, there’s nothing you can’t achieve. – Day9 Sean Plott on reddit
In the absence of all compassion, all hope disappears, leaving the strongest powerless. - reddit
Those who wasted youth actually saved it and those who saved youth actually wasted it ( Niaz Fatehpuri)