Category Archives: Life Lessons

Self Awareness by Recording Your Actions

In my head, I thought I was doing one thing. Once I wrote down what I did and reflected on it, I realized if I saw someone else do what I did, I would think something very different from what I thought I was doing.

This is because when I think about what I do, I remember the intent of each individual action, so of course that’s why the actions make sense to me–I did them. When others look at me, they don’t know my intent, so they try to figure out what I meant. Others view all my actions holistically to decide what to think. So their perception and judgment can drastically differ from my intent if I’m not actively conscious of how I am presenting myself overall.

The Lifeguard Rule

The life guard rule states that if the person you try to save is pulling you down and you realize you are both going to drown, then the right thing to do is to escape from that person and let them drown while saving yourself. If you stay, there are two deaths. If you leave, there is one death.

This is a great guiding principle for life in general. Do your best to help others, but if you’re going to die trying, do not die trying.

“If it’s you drown or us both drown then it’s you drown.”

Life Lessons from Oprah

“Expecting people to do what you would do in a situation only leads to your disappointment, not theirs, they’re going on in their life.  So let people be who they are and either you accept it or you don’t. The person on the other side of the bitterness you are holding onto are not even thinking of you. They probably just moved on. They certainly aren’t obsessing like you are. Letting go of any bad habit that isn’t serving you: not an easy road. Taking the road to more enlightened healthy existence never is.  

Ask yourself: Why are you holding onto this? How is this serving me? Maybe it makes you feel validated, feel righteous, or maybe taking on the pain is your way of recognizing the injustice so that even if it’s not going to be made right at least it won’t be forgotten. 

Do you want to be right? Or do you want to have peace? The unfortunate fact is having both may not be possible. You may never get your moment of righteousness so choose peace. Time is always moving on and is our most valuable commodity. So staying in that loop of playing it over and over only amplifies your pain. Let it go. Lighten your load. “ – Oprah

Difficulties:  Don’t ask “Why is this Happening” and instead ask “What is this here to teach me?” “What is this here to teach me?”  It puts you in the lace to get what you need. Don’t react against a bad situation, merge with that situation instead and the solution will arise from the challenge.