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Crazy Rich Asians and Their Crazy Old Ways

Today’s post is inspired by the recent movie Crazy Rich Asians. However, I will explore more themes than were presented in the movie.

The first topic I want to discuss is Filial Piety.  The idea that it is the child’s responsibility to care for the elders’ in their old age.  This is wrong today, in 2018, because it is outdated.  Hundreds or thousands of years ago, capitalism and division and specialization of labor did not exist. As such, everyone learned life skills like farming, hunting, labor, and mercantilism.  Therefore, they are directly in contact with the activities that provide basic life necessities.  So to plant an extra plant or share spare meat for the elders was efficient and therefore logical to do.  As time went on and division of labor took shape, the profit that the children could make per hour in relation to the value that profit could provide was sufficient to supply the family with fortune and health because 1. life expectancy was low, so you didn’t have to keep everyone alive for 80 years like you do now, 2. people had many kids, so that the family income was exponentially increasing at a high rate, and 3. people had kids very early, so the family size was enormous.  For example, if each family has 5 children ( conservative number )  and they start having kids at 16 (also conservative number ) then when the grandparents are 44 years old, they have 5 children which each have 5 grand children, so 25 grand children + 10 aunts and uncles = 35 people to earn money and support the 2 grand parents.  In the modern day, the numbers are more like: parents have 1 or 2 kids at age 30. So by age 44 the kid is only 14 and unable to support the parents. Then when the parents are 54 the kid is 24 and when the child gets married and has kids at 30, they have to support a new born baby and two aging retiring parents at 60.  Meaning that the 2 parents have to support 4 grandparents and 1-2 newborn children.
As you can clearly see, the ratio of 35 working people supporting 2 elders has become 2 working people supporting 4 elders.  This alone makes filial piety very difficult to achieve circa 1900s.
Now let’s talk about the 2000s.  It’s EVEN WORSE now because in modern times, most of wealth is achieved through investment income.  You will never become wealthy working 40 hours a week. You will only become wealthy through business and investment ventures.  In particular, when you’re talking about long term capital gains and retirement savings, due to the power of compound interest, money saved in your 20s is 3x more important than money saved in your 30s (if you use average stock market returns of 11% per year over 10 years 1.11^10 = ~3).  Furthermore, money saved in your 20s is 9x more important than money saved in your 40s, and 3x more important than money saved in your 30s. Which means if you spend your 20s paying off your student loans and then having some fun, then your 30s paying for parents and new born, then in your 40s you will be sooooo worse off from an investment standpoint.
But it gets worse.  In the 2000s, real estate has exploded and rent has skyrocketed and so have mortgage downpayment requirements. As a result, if your parents don’t jumpstart you on a mortgage, then you’ll end up paying rent for yourself and for your parents which is money you never get back.  This compounded with your lack of investments means that your net worth stays near to 0 your whole life if you pursue filial piety.
In summary, it made sense to have filial piety in ancient times due to math, but today the math does not work out.

The second topic is taken from the movie Crazy Rich Asians and it’s about the importance of passing down the family’s business, inheritance and wealth to the children.  This again is an outdated practice. Today we have lawyers and financial institutions you can hire to manage your business and prevent the managers of your business from running away with your property.  Hundreds of years ago you could only hold onto your property if you can prove it and defend it personally. Under those circumstances, of course the responsibility would fall on the shoulders of the strongest male in the family as they were most likely to be able to defend the family.  Then when division of labor took place, it was a matter of intelligence and connections. Thus, the father would teach the son said intelligence and introduce said son to the exclusive connections that will keep the family ahead of the curve.
However, as more people got rich, they pooled their resources and more efficiently taught the next generation through private schools.  And then they built institutions the further utilize capitalism and division of labor to create systems to support and preserve their wealth and power.  Fast forward to modern day and the government’s legal arm, property laws, and the well developed and highly regulated financial industry and economic system that powers the world today, and if a parent wants to pass fortune to children they can hire professionals to do that. The professionals can then hire professionals to establish the family dynasty through trust funds and private wealth management and etc.  The system is resilient enough to preserve wealth through the dumb generations, which historically lose all the family’s wealth through their stupidity.
In summary, it made sense to force children to take on the mantle of running the family business from generation to generation in the past, but not today.

The third topic I want to address from the movie Crazy Rich Asians is the idea that the wife needs to compromise and give up everything to become the matriarch for the family.  Again, very very outdated. Makes perfect sense back in the hunter gatherer social-economic structure of families hundreds of years ago, but not today.  Today women are more educated than ever before in history, and they are entering the work force and building careers for themselves as well. It is now a two career household rather than a one career household.

Stemming from the growing independence of women we come to the fourth topic which is romantic love and its place in the family.  The older generation was all about: you’re married now, deal with it the best you can, but no matter what preserve the family. As a result you find a lot of the older generation of asian parents today hating each other and only staying together for the purpose of the family and children. Then they pass down this unfortunate world view and expectation to their children: get married by this age, plop out children by this next age, deal with your problems rather than consider that you should get a divorce, or not get married and instead keep searching to find the right one and develop yourself in the meantime.  What you should do is grow yourself and wait for the right one. Better to be alone than in a terrible relationship. The good thing about today is that there’s so many people, you will find someone right for you if you keep looking.

A fallacy from the movie is the idea that (spoilers ahead, stop reading if you don’t want to know the plot) the lead character Nick is emotionally mature and ready for a marriage or relationship.  He spent a year running away from his problems, and in the end it was his wife Rachel who solves them. Which means that if Rachel is the intelligent independent confident woman that the movie makes her out to be, she will realize at some point that Nick is an immature boy and she deserves better.  The movie gives no indication that Nick has grown in any way, meaning his ability to actually take on the family business is highly suspect. Also, where is Nick’s dad in this movie?
Another fallacy from the movie is the idea that Nick would NOT think it’s a BIG deal that his girlfriend doesn’t know he’s rich.  He’s probably been thinking his whole life about how to introduce his future lover to his wealth, especially since he sees how the marriages of his family and friends turn out when immense wealth marries less immense wealth. Equally so a fallacy is the idea that Rachel would have never googled Nick to find out his history.
Also…where is Nicks dad in all of this? Why is not involved at all in family affairs?
And finally, in all seriousness, wrapping dumplings is hard.

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Life is Delicate. Life is Not Easy. Life is about Precision and Accuracy.

Much like how life on Earth is only possible because the earth is in the [circumstellar] habitable zone of the solar system, your life can only exist if it is within a thin range of possibilities.

I have recently learned that when applying for a job, it is possible to be overqualified and rejected in the same way that someone is underqualified and rejected.  Much like how if the earth was closer to the sun, we wouldn’t survive, and if the earth was further from the sun, we wouldn’t survive, having below the required skills for a job means you aren’t hired, but having skills that far exceed the job also means you aren’t hired.  (Why Employers Don’t Want to Hire Overqualified Candidates –

We’ve commonly heard the phrase ‘find balance in your life’ and that is usually talked about within a context of conflict.  Balancing time spent being productive and time spent recovering from the energy spent being productive.  However, this post is about highlighting the importance of balancing one’s abilities within the context of their environment.  Much like picking up a cup to take a sip should not take an hour, that’s too slow, nor should it take a split second, that’s too fast, you should accomplish tasks at a ‘reasonable pace’ to the environment.  However, if you are trying to clear a table of cups, split second cup pick upping might be appropriate, with normal speed being too slow.  At the same time, if the cup is dangerously close to a string that if touched will destroy everything you love, then perhaps taking an hour to be careful in removing the cup is apt.

Find balance within context.  Life demands it.  And life is mean to those who don’t obey.  So if things are going wrong, keep changing the variables to find the right tune.


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Life is Cruel

The world was not created for you or by you.  Remember this fact and make no mistake: there are rules to the game, and they are not set by you.  If you want to win, play by the rules.  If you don’t know what the rules are, learn them.  If there is no-one to teach you, expect to have a tough time. Expect to be treated unfairly.  Deal with it.  And be patient.  Be patient because eventually, you’ll learn the rules.  Be patient because eventually, you’ll have the opportunity to win.  Don’t give in to despair.  Don’t give in to the obstacles and setbacks and unfairness and the cruelty.  Be patient and keep going.

Remember, the world was not created to help you.  You have to help yourself, and you have to play by the rules.  How much you want something means nothing if you go against a rule, because the rule will win.  Make no mistake, find and follow the rules of life and you will find success.  Fail to do so, and you will suffer.

Context: terminally ill patient asks loved one to commit double suicide with them.  According to certain religions, terminally ill patient will die of natural causes and therefore go to heaven.  Terminally ill patient is afraid of death and doesn’t want to enter it alone.  Loved one loves terminally ill patient and so agrees to join them so that they won’t be alone.  However, according to certain religions, because the loved one who committed suicide did not die of natural causes, they will be punished with eternal damnation in hell.  The loved one didn’t follow the rules of a natural death.  And the terminally ill one didn’t follow the rules of the loved one achieving a natural death.  So in the midst of death and despair, two lovers demonstrate love, and are punished dearly for it with separation and torture.

Now I’m not religious, so I am not using this story for any religious purposes. I just use it to highlight how no matter how pure the intention, no matter how strong the desire, no matter how good the plan, if the actions don’t follow the rules of reality, the expected outcome will not occur.  So please, learn the rules of the game and follow them.


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