Category Archives: Mental Health

Confidence

Life Education, Social Anxiety

Confidence comes from within.  If you have an external source of confidence, it is only a source of confidence because you internally recognized it as such.  For example, if being a champion at chess is something all the kids at school make fun of you for, you might not feel confident at all as a result of your chess ability.  However, if everyone you know respects your chess ability, then you may feel confident because of it.  The same thing is true about money, status, and anything else that society, friends, family, yourself, puts value into: it only has value if you acknowledge it.

Personal story: I used to have clothes I liked that gave me confidence when I wore them.  Years later, those exact same clothes no longer gave me confidence because my sense of style changed.  I had a friend give me a make over, and even though other people agreed with my friend’s style, acknowledging that it was a good one, I personally did not agree with it.  So even though I could get compliments externally about my clothing style, because the style was not my own, and I did not acknowledge it, I still felt unconfident.

There is a difference between acting confident, and being confident.  People often suggest you achieve confidence by faking it until you make it.  Acting confident gives you the experiences to understand and gain actual confidence, and it can make you confident over time, but acting alone does not give you confidence.

Resources

How do Ladies Perceive Confidence in a Guy – Reddit

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Dangerous Cycles

Mental Health

Cycle of depression -> doing nothing -> actually having no life -> feeling like no life -> depression.  (Nature of Your Own Identity)

Cycle of educational poverty: too poor to afford lessons -> shows no potential -> not offered opportunities or resources for improvement -> still too poor to afford lessons

Cycle of abuse: abused -> abuse others -> abused by others  (Maturity is when a person hurts you, and you try to understand their situation instead of hurting them back – Actual Advice Mallard)

Cycle of fatigue: too weak to take good care of myself -> weak

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Existentialism

Mental Health

Necessary reading: Properties of Reality – what is Internal, External, and Shared Reality.

Reality is made, that’s the true meaning behind “just do it.”  Nothing exists in external reality unless an action is taken to communicate your internal reality to your external reality, and external reality is where we must live if we are to not be isolated, alone, and trapped within our own internal reality.

This post is part of AttemptedLiving’s education on Mental Health, a collection of articles to help cure bad thoughts, bad logic, or to shed light on difficult questions.

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