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Healthy Habits

Having Healthy Habits means you can rely on yourself to heal yourself and get into a better situation without having to think about it. This is extremely important for people stuck in thought loops of depression because decision making is hard when depressed, and habits reduce the decision making cost.

If you or someone you know is depressed, the best thing you can do for them is to guide them to learn healthy habits at their own pace. I remember when I was deep in my depression, one friend would call me every day to check in to see if I was doing basic things like eating and sleeping. It was meaningful to me to get care and support from someone when I was depressed because at that time I was not getting care and support from myself. That action taken by my friend was a critical reason why I was able to start the successful journey out of depression.

Today, I decided to add two healthy habits to my morning routine of waking up: taking a walk and meditation.

The bad habit I had was to wake up and sit and look at the internet. I think the internet gives the illusion of moving and traveling without the physical act of moving and traveling. And the movement of the body is so important to the health of the body mind and spirit. We are in our bodies after all. Our bodies are our tie to reality and this world, so as much as it is important to take care of our mind and spirit, it is important to take care of our bodies. And our bodies were not designed for internet consumption. Our biological evolution has designed our bodies for long distance running. The human species is known for being the longest traveling species on land per day, and so when you take a body that is specifically designed to run and you make that body sit still and travel no where, it is being used in the opposite way it was designed. And that can lead to depression and feelings of uselessness. To break those feelings of worthlessness, and to take care of my body, and to help gently get the blood flowing after a night of sleep, I am adding a small walk (indoors, doesn’t have to be outside) to my wake up routine. My room is small: I can take literally 2 steps before I have to U-Turn and take 2 steps again. But that’s what I’ll do: pace back and forth because it’s healthy and good for me.

The other bad habit I have is to feel distressed, anxious, and uncomfortable, and then take out that angsty emotion through browsing the internet in an aggressive manner. An aggressive manner means I spend very little time looking at one thing before quickly clicking to another. That way, I can view 100 things and be dissatisfied by all of them, and that is an unhealthy mindset, attitude, and habit to have. To break this negative energy, I want to meditate in the morning. This way, I have a reliable hard reset to my energy levels every day to set me on the track for success that day. I plan to meditate by first focusing on my breathing to make it deeper and slower. Then I plan to slow down my perception of time by consciously slowing down my racing mind and focusing on the present, on letting go, on nothing.

Life Threatening Trauma – Thestral

I’ve always wondered why I am different psychologically from so many of my peers. Why do I see more than they do? Why do I feel more than they do? Why do I react more than they do? Now I know why: it’s because I’ve been through a deeper degree of life threatening experiences than they have, if they have been through any at all.

People who have gone through life threatening experiences see the world differently from people who haven’t. So this creates 3 kinds of relationships.

Let’s call the two groups PTSD and non-PTSD.

Two people who are Non-PTSD can become friends who understand each other

Two people who are PTSD can become friends who understand each other

A PTSD person and a Non-PTSD person can never truly understand each other until that Non-PTSD person converts to a PTSD person, or puts in the work and effort to study and imagine and empathize with what PTSD is.

If you are a PTSD person who has trouble connecting with Non-PTSD people, I want you to know 1. you are not alone and 2. they don’t understand you. Rather than have them try to understand you, point them to understand what PTSD is, and then have them understand you and empathize with you through that lens.

This article from Psychology Today describes 3 kinds of Trauma.

  1. Life Threatening Trauma (you or someone you love)
  2. Beyond Everyday Trauma (abuse)
  3. Everyday Trauma (stress)

If someone has never been in a brutal car accident, then getting into a car doesn’t trigger fear like someone who knows the trauma that can occur from getting into a car.

If someone has never seen how the careless negligence of something insignificant like accidentally bumping into someone in the grocery store can result in a mentally unstable person being tipped over the edge and massacring people, they might not look around before backing up in a public area.

If someone has never seen how a smile and a trusting face can be used to scam and extort and ruin families, they might not feel fear when they meet someone pleasant to be around.

Harry Potter had it right with the Thestrals: some things, only people who have seen death know.

So the question now is: How do I as a person who has seen death interact with and live with and socialize with other people who literally do not see what I see, and consider what I see to be imaginary? How do I maintain my reputation as a sane person when only other people who have experienced death will know I’m sane? How do I maintain popularity if most people don’t understand what I’m saying because they don’t see what I see because they haven’t had a life threatening experience?

Should live threatening experiences be part of the education system? It certainly is a significant mark of maturity, and a necessary experience for maturity, and yet

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/trauma-queen/201703/what-does-it-mean-be-traumatized

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/trauma