How to Get Promoted

3 Perspectives for Promotion are Work, Relationship, and Business

Work Perspective
* Do your work well
* Do the work of the position you want to be promoted to well
* Make sure the work of the position you want to be promoted to aligns with the priorities of your manager and the company.
* Measure your improvements with written documentation that your manager or other authorities sign off on.

Relationship Perspective
* Get along with your manager no matter what.
* If you don’t like your manager, don’t lash out at the manager. Figure out a way to have a good relationship anyway.
* If your manager is incompetent or makes mistakes, don’t attack your manager for them. Protect your manager, Help and Heal your manager
* Become a strong team with your manager so that your manager will represent you well to the rest of the company

Business Perspective
* The company will only create a job for you to be promoted into if they want that job to exist. So do your homework to figure out what job your company wants to pay for before you start showing your ability to do that job.

PSA: Give Comfort when Possible

Comforting Cat

“He was only a cat, but he was human enough to be a great comfort in hours of loneliness and pain”

https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/166163316/dewey
Pine Ridge Pet Cemetery Dedham, Norfolk County, Massachusetts, USA

I post this as a sweet image of the impact comfort has on the lonely and in pain, and how much appreciation and value is created in the act of comforting.

Photo Credit: Paul Koudounaris on instagram (From https://imgur.com/u0eG60J)

How to Listen Your Way to Healthier Relationships

Communicating Listening helps the other person feel listened to and valued, which deepens the relationship.
1. Memory — remembering what someone says shows you listened and you accept them for who they are because you still hang out with them after learning about them.
2. Questions — relevant follow up questions shows you’ve been listening, and that you’re interested in them, and that what they are saying is valued by you, so they feel valued.
3. Summarize — summarize what they just said shows you listened to what you just said and explicitly communicates to them what you heard.
4. Transitions — if you want to change the subject, acknowledge what they said first before you change the topic so they feel listened to. This is because
*Key Point* they cannot read your mind. So unless you communicate listening in some way, they have no idea if you heard what they said or not. So always always always communicate listening so that they know that you listened.
5. Don’t Cut Them Off — let them finish telling their whole story before you change the topic. Check whether they finished by pausing and watching their body language.