Category Archives: Life Lessons

Life Lessons Jan 10 2018

Opportunities expire really quickly so take them when you can

A few months ago I went to a bitcoin talk and was recommended Monero.  I was convinced and would buy Monero, but was too lazy to do anything with the information.  As a result, Monero quadrupled in value while bitcoin only doubled in value. I had the opportunity, but I was slow to act, and so I missed it.

 

If you are unhappy today, act in such a way that you will be happy tomorrow.

Often times when I’m unhappy, I don’t feel like doing anything and so I don’t.  This is a problem because you likely don’t feel good today because of what you did yesterday.  If you don’t take care of yourself today, then you are setting yourself up to feel bad tomorrow.  And if you always respond to sadness in such a way that the next day will be sad, then you are trapping yourself in an infinite loop of sad days.

Even if you don’t feel like doing anything and you aren’t happy, you should still move and do work.  When you feel bad because of what happened in the past, realize that you can’t change the past, but you can change the future, so act in such a way that you will be happy tomorrow.

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Focus to Improve Skills, Unfocus to Improve Relationships

When it comes to skills like tennis, math, piano, you can improve at them the more you work at it, the more hours you spend, the more focus you bring to the path you take to the goals you’re trying to reach.  If I concentrate harder, I get results faster, because I’m controlling myself more, and success is gained when I can perform and execute the technique perfectly. The more time I spend, the more practice I get, and the more likely I am to execute the technique perfectly.  This ability to learn and learn quickly is very important in life, and is typically how people ‘succeed’ in the objective and competitive sense of the word.

Then there are things like relationships where your results improve when you’re not working at it, that don’t improve solely based on the hours you spend on it, and where focus can actually reduce your success significantly.  A relationship is successful if they remember you when you’re gone, not that they pay attention to you while you’re there.  Spending time alone doesn’t improve the relationship, spending quality time does, and there’s only so much quality time available per day and interaction before it becomes suffocating to spend more time together: overstaying results not in diminishing returns but actually in negative returns.  Spending too much time weakens the relationship, not strengthens.  And focusing too hard on someone is creepy, and so leads to failure.

Applying the skills used to master skills to relationships will lead to failure.  Separate the two, and develop a well rounded toolkit. Be able to learn quickly, and also be able to improve relationships.

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Life Lessons June 2014

Hey Readers! Apologies that I am running a year behind! Another project has been taking up all my time, but I intend to catch up on these by the end of the year :)
Don’t beat yourself up over mistakes which harm others.  It doesn’t make you a bad person because it wasn’t done with criminal intent: an innocent mistake doesn’t make you a bad person.
Don’t ask people “why don’t you like me.”  The other person probably doesn’t know because like and dislike are complex decisions heavily influenced by the subconscious, and it isn’t the other person’s responsibility to find out and tell you. Instead, think about traits that likable people have that you admire and work on improving those traits in yourself.
If you want to live, go to sleep. Too often we think the way to having a life is to stay up with friends. No, that’s the quickest way to become sleep deprived, lose vigor and energy during your day, affecting your attention and ability to live in the moment and experience life fully (See Understand Sleep).
Working slower doesn’t improve quality, working thoroughly does. It’s better to be slower as a result of being thorough than to just be slow for the sake of being slow in the hopes that it will improve quality.  I often make that mistake: I think I should set aside more time for a task in the hopes that doing so will result in higher quality work, but then I end up wasting time and getting distracted because there is nothing else to do.  If it’s going to take 10 minutes to do, setting aside 20 minutes won’t make it 2x better.
Friendly reminder that it’s always a good time to practice and improve listening skills.
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