Category Archives: Mental Health

Help Emotionally Troubled Loved Ones by Sitting with Them in Their Emotions

If you have someone you care about who is going through a difficult time and you don’t know how to get through to them, here’s how: Be present with them and spend time with them.  Don’t spend brain power solving their issues. Don’t spend energy telling them what they should do without them asking you for that.  Don’t take the initiative, the free will, the power to control their own life away from them.
What someone needs when they’re in an emotionally charged state is for someone else to absorb that emotional energy through active listening.
A friend recently showed me a South Park Episode about suicide (Season 21 Episode 2: Put It Down) and in it, near the end of the show, there’s two scenes that are really educational on how to help a friend.
A good friend doesn’t judge, doesn’t criticize, doesn’t problem solve. A good friend just sits with the person and listens and feels the emotions that the other person is feeling so that the person doesn’t feel alone and scared anymore because there’s someone else together with that person.  Sit in the emotions with the other person, ask them “how do you feel.” “How else do you feel?” “Wow, that sounds scary, how do you cope?” “That sounds hard, I can understand why you’re feeling this way.”  Let them express to you all that they are feeling, and listen. Sit and listen. Feel bad with them.  Keep feeling bad with them until they have said all they want to say about the topic (it may take a very long time) but only after they have been allowed to discharge all of their emotions will they be able to calm down, relax, and think clearly again.
The order of health priority in all situations is:
Emotional -> Mental/Logic -> Beliefs/Spiritual/Psychological -> THEN Physical Health -> Society (Finances/Career/Relationships).
First help your loved one with their emotions.
Then you can discuss the logical solutions and actions you can take to problem solve.
Then ensure that they can accept the logic you discussed, and have alignment between their Beliefs and the Logic. If they don’t, they may revert back to an Emotional state.
Only after all 3 Healths (Emotional, Mental, Beliefs) are healed can you then focus on Physical Health or Society Health.  This is why when you say “Go get some sleep” or “Go exercise” or “Take better care of yourself” to someone who is emotionally uncomfortable, they get mad at you. It’s because those statements do not help until you have discharged them emotionally for your loved one. .
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How to Recover From Abuse

Here is a collection of tips that I found useful when recovering from abuse. Please comment below with any additional tips to share!

First recognize the state you’re in: you’re weak in every way.

You are not emotionally healthy enough to handle emotions because you’re emotionally weakened from the abuse you’ve gone through, so you’re likely to either be hurt easily by everything, or you’re likely to harden up and ignore or suppress any emotions you might feel. As much as possible, stay conscious of your emotionally weakened state, as it will help you make good decisions like avoiding confrontation/emotionally taxing events, or avoiding decisions that you normally wouldn’t make when healthy.

When you seek help, be selective and choose only people who make you feel better.  If someone doesn’t help you feel better about the abuse you’ve gone through, check if you have the energy to inform them. If so, do so. If not, end the conversation and try to find another person to help.  Most people are not trained to provide emotional therapy, so don’t be surprised if your friends and family fail to help.  Do make it known that you want help so that people can offer it to you and you can accept it if helpful.

Spend time on self care as much as you can.

Realize that you are likely to lapse greatly in this area, so do your best, but stay conscious of your progress and efforts at all times.

Health Checklist: I Feel Bad What Should I do?

Take your time, but also take as much action as you can bear.

A lot of people will tell you to ‘get over it’ and ‘move on’ and this is half helpful and half insulting so take it with a grain of salt.  The positive way of looking at these comments is that the intention is to help you feel better, it’s how they know how to show care for you. However, it’s often the case that their delivery is insensitive and hurtful, so ignore them if necessary.  Use them as a reminder that you should try as much as possible to take action, even if it’s a little bit. Get out of bed. Walk around. Shower. Wipe the table. Clear off the desk.  Read and clear an email or two.  Do something productive and take action.  And when you feel like you can’t do anything anymore, rest. If you need rest, take it.  When you’re ready, you can move on. When you’re ready, you can get over it.

Be honest with yourself on your recovery. Don’t let insensitive people pressure you to suppress your emotions before you’ve had the appropriate amount of time necessary to process them.  Take your time.

Do Things That Make You Happy!

Whatever it is, do what makes you happy until you can recover!

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Happy Links

Loving Dog: https://i.imgur.com/TYeEXM0.gifv

Puppy Warming Paws: https://i.imgur.com/pTmZRMy.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/Iyr6Nga.png

Petting a Corgi http://i.imgur.com/5XdtwNK.gif

http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/39pivj/whats_your_favorite_video_that_is_10_seconds_or/

Nicklestats https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sz2mmM-kN1I

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/3j9f0e/what_is_never_going_to_stop_being_funny/?sort=top

British Reaction https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_X6VoFBCE9k

http://www.squishable.com/p/squish_corgi_15/

Hopping http://i.imgur.com/RhCoeuh.gifv

happy camel http://i.imgur.com/mhVP5Of.gifv

nom nom rabbits: http://i.imgur.com/fOhVbf4.gifv

happy golden retrievers family http://i.imgur.com/fwvEFer.jpg

Puppy and ice cube: http://i.imgur.com/J4K8lVs.gifv

puppy sleeping driving http://imgur.com/J24C6kr

cat sneaking on bed http://i.imgur.com/xykhGM4.gifv

happy puppy http://i.imgur.com/WSm25tt.jpg

Day to Night Still Life Scenery Photography http://www.stephenwilkes.com/fine-art/day-to-night/5669b817-ba0c-4937-a545-723f0a771fd0

Dog and Capybara http://i.imgur.com/jE8dAwc.gifv

http://animalssittingoncapybaras.tumblr.com/

Please turn down the gravity: http://i.imgur.com/GLYwgMFl.jpg

Mischievous: http://i.imgur.com/onUApEt.gifv

Owl in a blanket: http://img-9gag-fun.9cache.com/photo/awVV1ZW_460sv.mp4

bunnies in cup; http://i.imgur.com/sjQ2C2c.gifv

large fuzzy owl kisses http://i.imgur.com/68O3L4Z.gifv

chicken in a hen: http://i.imgur.com/zU6hQiq.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/f9Xa8DQ.gifv puppy says hello

fluffy followers https://i.imgur.com/EOUihtd.gifv

corgi duffel http://imgur.com/mEZESrV

gerbils eating cucumbers http://i.imgur.com/NsHfuyg.gifv

fluff dog in snow https://www.reddit.com/r/aww/comments/5760wz/a_rare_sighting_of_the_north_american_snow_loaf/

dog want cuddle https://i.reddituploads.com/166322e18e2944c4a005038c96319089?fit=max&h=1536&w=1536&s=dc8b07d3ef279cce29c32946572af7fc

it’s aardvark! http://i.imgur.com/VW4jWGk.jpg a quokka

beautiful owl: http://i.imgur.com/zzDNPkV.gifv

http://i.imgur.com/6Jfy2ZJ.jpg happy dog

wants to play https://www.reddit.com/r/aww/comments/5d4i75/he_just_wants_someone_to_play_with/ happy smile at end

Dogs finding Grandma: http://i.imgur.com/bs4Jmf1.gifv

Corgi Race! http://i.imgur.com/QOeM7sv.gifv

Story

Maurice Sendak child fan eats his letter out of joy: https://www.reddit.com/r/funny/comments/56bpi9/maurice_sendak_highest_of_compliments/

 

 

Art

http://imgur.com/gallery/UgSknE2

http://thecreatorsproject.vice.com/blog/a-modern-surrealist-painter-picks-up-where-dali-left-off?utm_source=tcpfbus