Caring is a hard thing to do. I struggle with caring, and when I can’t care then I don’t care. But at the end of the day, I want to care.

I find it hard to both care and let go. The more I care, the more I hold on, and the less I care, the less I hold on.

I think the strength of my grip is an expression of the strength of my care. I may have gotten this idea from tv shows, movies, and the concept of marriage where if you care enough you would fight to stay and hold on.

I think even the need for control comes from a place of desire and want and care. If you don’t care, you won’t want to control. But let’s not go too deep into the conversation on control and go back to care and letting go.

They say if you love it, let it go, and if it comes back to you then it was meant to be and if not it wasn’t. I think another way of saying this is to let go of all things. Let go of everything. Then, if something happens to be nearby that you like, enjoy it. If you can stay with something you like, do so. And if you can’t stay with something you like, let it go. Let it go as a default, rather than thinking of holding on as the default and the decision of letting go as an action. Make the decision of letting go the inaction. Then you can enjoy things while they are there, and let go with peace.

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