Loneliness Battery

The loneliness battery determines how long you can go alone without feeling alone.  It recharges with you’re connected to other people, and it slowly gets used up when you are separated.

The amount of recharge is based on the number of people you interact with, and more importantly, how connected you feel to those people during the interaction.  You feel much less alone after saying “Hi, Bye” to a few close friends and family, than saying “Hi, Bye” to 100 strangers.

You feel less alone if you have a conversation that is personal, than if you talk about things unrelated to you (small talk).

You charge faster if you converse with someone you believe is honest, genuine, and trustworthy; if you think the connection isn’t real, then the battery won’t charge.

The battery is based on reality and not imagination.  However, recalling fond memories can also remind you of periods in your life where you were connected, and those memories can charge your loneliness battery.

Getting Comfortable with a Friend

 

  • Nausea

    I can’t believe that people keep linking me to this page for advice on loneliness. All it is is a wordy version of “you’re lonely because you lack intimate connections”, like no crap, that’s what I’ve been saying this entire time.

    • AttemptedLiving

      Congratulations, you are one step ahead of some people with respect to loneliness. When I started, I used to wonder if it was something wrong with me uniquely or if it was a general problem other people have as well. One of the purposes of this post is to reassure people that they are not strange or out of the ordinary for having these feelings of loneliness: that it is logical and OK to have them. Just like if you find out you have acne, freckles, green eyes, etc. It’s not something to be concerned about. However, if you do find yourself feeling lonely, this post gives you the reason why: it’s kind of like if your ankle hurts and you go to the doctor to find out why so that you can do something about it like rest, put ice on your ankle, etc. For Loneliness, the solution is to get intimate connections. You prove yourself ot be again one step ahead of the curve in already knowing the solution. Read this post for how: http://attemptedliving.com/2014/02/09/how-to-make-friends/