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Protect Yourself When Traumatized

EndTheStigma, Life Lessons, Mental Health

Do not trust anyone with your trauma. When you are weak and sick and ill, there are cruel people who will take advantage of you or derive pleasure from hurting you. Avoid these people.

Do not share your emotional injuries with people who don’t believe you. Give them once chance. If they are skeptical and they think you are attention seeking or lying or making it up, leave them. 

Find someone who will listen to you and believe you and understand you and empathize with you and give compassion.

You are in a weakened state when traumatized. You want help, but you must face the reality that the world is not a kind place and you might not get the help that you need. If you do not face this reality, you will get weaker and weaker as people hurt you more and more.

Take responsibility for yourself by protecting yourself from the harm of others who are indifferent. Remember, these people are not personally looking for you to harm you. They just don’t care about you, and apathy is not active harm.

Find your close friends, your family members who historically have proven they make your life better, or call for support hotlines or use your medical insurance. Whatever you do, do not ask for help from people you cannot trust.

People Seek Power when Powerless

Human Nature

Natives painted animals on themselves to gain power from the animals 
Greek painted gods of nature to gain power
Science intelligence education gains power 
Mental health and religion give people power
Illegal drugs and legal drugs give people power 

When you find yourself reaching for these items, the real thing you’re looking for is power over your feelings of powerlessness.

Process Emotional Setbacks in a Healthy Way

Emotional Intelligence, Life Advice, Mental Health

Tony Robbins says: Focus on what you can change, what you have, and what is in the present. 

Don’t focus on what you can’t change, what you don’t have, and on the past or future instead of the present. 

To overcome a setback, interpret the meaning of what happened. Ask what happened and what did it mean. Find the Emotional root of what things mean to you. This will help you understand what is going on with you emotionally. Recognizing and describing your emotions is the first step to healing. The next step is to decide on what the healthy solution is and to do that healthy solution.